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January 22, 2011

"So You Want to Get Married?" Advice for the Unmarried

An overwhelming number of young, unmarried women I talk to say their hopes for the future include marrying and being a mommy. They say it in hushed tones and with half a smile, as if they think it is abnormal and archaic to wish such a thing. Many of these young women have thrown themselves wholeheartedly into ministry in their homes, churches, communities, foreign mission fields. Many climb the corporate ladder, or add bachelors, masters, and doctorates onto their resume. Many of them would drop any of these pursuits in a moment if a godly, visionary man came up to them and said, "Let's make a family together."

Steve and Candice Watters have been promoting the cause of marriage among Christian young people for several years now, encouraging young women who want to be married to treat marriage and children like a worthy endeavor, and challenging young men to quickly reach the point where they are ready for marriage and to take initiative. I recently listened to a podcast interview done by Kevin Swanson's Generations with Vision program, in which he interviewed Steve and Candice Watters. Candice talks about how godly young women should look forward to and pursue marriage even more than educational and careerism goals. She says when we have a goal to pursue, such as wanting to be a doctor, or wanting to be a writer, we live like we want to be a doctor or a writer. The same should be true of marriage. If we want to be married, we should live like we are planning to be married-- we make a place for it in our lives, we build our character and skill base so that we are well-suited for marriage, we mingle with godly couples who will disciple us, and we live like we want to be married. Instead of whispering about and glancing sideways at goals for marriage, they encourage singles to pursue it as a worthy calling, which God will bless.

Listen to Candice and Steve's interview on Generations with Vision. I guarantee that you will be edified and encouraged.

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